Lots of guys who come in for trainings say they “want to
get married some day” or “want to have kids someday.”
For most of these guys, it’s something that they haven’t
really thought out very well.
They just think it’s what you’re “supposed to do.”
They know it’s what their parents want them to do, and
what most “normal people” do. So they just file it away
as “something I want to do someday.”
I’ve had plenty of instances where women I’m dating or
family members try to push me into marriage, kids, or
some kind of long-term commitment.
I always tell them “If the time comes when I feel the
desire for that, I will investigate it at that time and
make my decision accordingly.”
The reason I say it that way is simple:
I’m not going to jump into some huge life-changing event
just because that’s what other people are doing, or
that’s what my parents did.
I’m going to figure out the pros and cons, the risks and
rewards, and do it the right way, so it’s a win-win for
everyone involved, or not do it at all.
This is called thinking for yourself and using
The people that pressure you about this stuff are not
usually looking out for your best interests. They are
looking after their own best interests, and you are just
a means to an end for them.
Yes, even mom and dad don’t give a crap about your best
interests when it comes to this topic. They just want
grandchildren and you are the way to get them.
Your parent’s probably mean well, but chances are that
they know nothing about how marriage works today. It’s a
way different beast than it was 30 years ago.
If you ignore reality, you’ll end up taking some huge
risks that you might not be aware of, and you will
probably lose big time.
If you’re interested in this topic, you should check out
“The Male Conundrum” in seminar 6 of my Underground
Don’t have it yet? Click here.
And you thought it was all just about getting laid.
PS – Getting good with women is about a lot more than
getting your dick wet. And the Underground Dating
Seminar is about a lot more than dating. It’s
about getting confident and positive in your life. And
forming beliefs that truly serve your best interest.
Game gets a lot easier when you got that.