When you’re improving your dating skills there’s
something you always need to remember:
When things go wrong, you shouldn’t automatically assume
it’s your fault.
When you approach a woman and it doesn’t go well, it
could have to do with a lot of outside factors.
Maybe the girl is mentally screwed up. Maybe she’s got
problems. Maybe you are just incompatible.
That doesn’t mean you have lousy game.
For example, if one girl tells you that your clothes
suck, you should disregard her opinion.
However, if 10 girls tell you that your clothes suck,
then you should make a change.
Common sense, right?
This holds true not only in pickup, but also in many
areas of life where you want to achieve success.
…And it is a principle that separates winners from
Let me give you an example from my own life:
One time I met a woman through my social circle.
She was a friend of a (female) friend.
Both of these women were successful fashion models. They
had been partying all night, and I hung around and
partied with them until 5am.
I used this great technique where I give the girl a
guitar and tell her to strum it with her right hand.
Then I do all the fret work with my left hand, and she
feels like she has instantly become an awesome guitar
Chicks love that.
After a few hours, I managed to isolate her back at my
But, when I got her alone, she went completely cold. She
complained about my outfit, my place, and wouldn’t let
me touch her at all. She’d just say, “Don’t touch me.
She gave me nothing but negative vibes. Finally, I
figured I’d get her out of my house.
I said to myself “Wow I sure did creep that girl out.
She went from interested to ‘don’t touch me’ in just
minutes. My game must really suck tonight.”
The next day, my friends told me “When we took that girl
home, she couldn’t stop talking about you. She was way
This was a shocker to me, since she seemed bitchy and
disinterested the whole time.
It turns out that there were some additional factors I
wasn’t aware of which made this girl act cold even
though she was interested.
Factor 1- she had broken up with her boyfriend the day
before, and didn’t want to have sex for a while.
Factor 2- she was starting a fashion line with my female
friend, and was worried that if she fucked me she would
look like a slut and my friend would not work with her.
My female friend who was setting all of this up is a
famous supermodel who has been on the cover of every
major magazine. She’s a pretty big deal, and the girl
who liked me was paranoid about being on her bad side.
Their business connection is more important than any
amount of sex could ever be.
After my friends told me about all of this, I realized
that I hadn’t done any crappy game, and the problem
The problem was HER!!!
She liked me and wanted to date me, but she was too
screwed up in the head to move towards that goal.
So try to remember:
A bad result with one girl doesn’t mean anything. Wait
and see how the next 9 girls respond before you draw any
That is how a winner thinks. A winner doesn’t get thrown
off by one or two failures.
And this is one of the core principles of having rock
solid inner game.
If you’d like to learn a few more, check out my program
Secrets of Inner Game.
It’s the real secret to being the “magnetic” guy who
seems to have magical powers with women.