Feels Wrong Doing it Right

Tue, 01/03/2016

It seems that we’re always being taught to be good
listeners.

If you look at all the typical relationship advice, one
of the top pieces of advice given to men is be a good
listener.

If you take a Dale Carnegie course on effective
communication, you find that people want to be heard.

Listening is generally considered a really important
skill.

So why then do I tell you to do most of the talking when
you approach women?

I’m going to go into this today because I was just
talking to a client and he said he felt like he was
doing it wrong because he feels like he was doing most
of the talking during his interactions.

Actually, he was doing it RIGHT.

Then I gave him a refresher on the 90/10 rule.

The 90/10 rule means that YOU are talking 90% of the
time and the girl is talking 10% of the time.

If that ratio is occurring early on in your approaches
you are doing GREAT.

If she is talking less than 10% of the time, that’s not
good cause it’s like you’re lecturing her.

But girls tend to not talk at all sometimes, so you have
to ask a question, or get her to agree with something
just to get her to hold up her 10%.

They’re shy sometimes when dudes approach. It’s up to
you to lead the interaction.

So as long as she’s still standing there listening and
doesn’t walk away, chances are you’re doing fine.

Besides you couldn’t spark massive attraction if SHE
were doing all the talking.

So that’s the 90/10 rule: You talk 90% of the time; she
talks 10% of the time.

If you want to find everything you need to always know
what to say, check out this short video I put together
and then take some action on it.

Let me know how you do!

Talk soon,

Brad P.