I know we don’t talk about online dating much, but I
wanted to share a tip because pretty much every single
woman uses apps or online dating sites now…
…THAT’S the place to find them.
And there’s a mistake that I see time and time again,
which if not corrected, will ensure you NEVER have any
results at all.
Can you guess what it is?
…Being “Needy” and Approval Seeking.
This is arguably the biggest mistake I see… but also
the easiest most powerful one to reverse, once you
Let me explain…
In every profile, guys lay out facts about themselves.
That’s how men communicate – they transmit data.
What’s worse though, is that they do so in a “hey, look
at me – I’m trying to impress you” kind of way. Which
translates into just two words in a woman’s head:
What’s less obvious and highly unattractive about this
is that the man is clearly seeking the woman’s
approval. He wants her to find him to he “amazing” and
validate his insecurities with her interest/desire.
Unfortunately, THIS NEVER WORKS.
But you can reverse that common approach.
Instead, you can get them to SEEK YOUR APPROVAL… by
conjuring up an image of an awesome woman – who is
EXACTLY what you want – build her and she will come.
The first benefit of conjuring up your ideal women is
that the exact kind of woman you want will see herself
in your words – before you even meet she will feel
understood, recognized and appreciated – which is
incredibly arousing to them.
And you’re the magic man who did it.
The second benefit of this power flip is that it also
serves as a FILTER to PREVENT the women you DON’T want
from writing you.
This alone, saves you a ton of time.
If you say positive – the cynical women won’t write.
If you say “edgy, sexy and cool,” the prim, uptight
girls won’t write you.
You Lead. They Follow.
But again, that’s why it’s imperative you focus your
profile more about HER-and only subtly drop hints about
yourself interwoven into your description of the woman
you’re looking for.
This is something my buddy, and online dating legend,
Ben Lefors did amazingly well in his profile.
Ben received over 2000 emails in 5 months from that one
on different sites – College girls, right up into
wonderful, accomplished, professional women – there are
so many women looking for a guy who’s not a douche – and
plenty of them are younger women.
And Ben is short, NOT 6’5″-nor does he look like Brad
Pitt or drive a Rolls.
So as you go back to the drawing board on your Tinder or
other dating site profiles, I encourage you to keep this
tip in mind.
You’ll be very glad you did.
PS – You want to know how Ben did it (with a little help