Let me tell you about Blaine…
He’s 24 years old. And a handsome all American type.
Wears a suit to work. Works at a financial services
company. You get the picture.
This is a popular type with upscale professional type
women. These types of girls by the way can be some of
the naughtiest in bed. Don’t let the congenial thing
So, the last time I was in New York, I was out with
Blaine in a pretty trendy bar (near the financial
district). It was time for him to do some approaches,
so I just hung back to watch and enjoy the show.
He makes eyes with this cute brunette with long hair who
reminded me of Penelope Cruz.
She was there with two other girls. I couldn’t tell if
they were friends or co-workers (It was happy hour, so
She made eyes right back at him.
Blaine hung back.
I discreetly took a few steps toward him and said “Go.
He froze. He said, “I think she’s getting up to go the
bathroom. I’ll get her on the way out.”
I shook my head. This drives me crazy.
Blaine had been a friend and a client for some time, so
I gently put the screws to him and MADE him go in.
The interaction actually went well. He got her number
and I’m pretty sure they ended up hooking up.
But if I hadn’t been there he’d have hesitated and
probably blown it.
Let me ask you:
Have you ever stared at a hot chick you want to fuck and
hesitated because you weren’t sure it was the right time
Yep. We all have.
And you know what…
Who the hell knows (or cares) when the exact right time
to approach is?
There will ALWAYS be a “better” time to approach a girl.
You can always be in a better mood, you can be more
“on,” the environment could be quieter, or she could be
standing alone simply looking around for any guy to talk
The thing that’s more important than picking the right
time to talk to a girl is simple TALKING TO THE GIRL.
I’m pretty sure “just doing it” eventually got Blaine
You see, there is the “best” time and then there is
Think in terms of opportunity.
If you see an opportunity with a girl who, for example,
is going to the bathroom and you’re standing in her
path, then you should open your mouth and say something
because I bet you the best time to approach her will not
happen before the night is out.
As long as you open your mouth and say something, you’re
The more you THINK about approaching, the less you’ll DO
The truth is that MOST GUYS have never approached a girl
in their life.
They have never walked up to a girl they liked and
talked to her. So the only girls they meet are from
friends or the mediocre girls that approach them first.
And even when they meet girls, they have no idea how to
build attraction and take things to the next level.
That was me, and I got tired of watching a small
percentage of guys get most of the women while I begged
I figured out some simple and easy ways to blow out the
approach anxiety that every guy kind of feels by default
when he’s going after a girl.
The anxiety is normal, but you don’t have to live with
I don’t have to live with it. And I’m pretty sure
Blaine is no longer living with it.
Imagine how it would feel if you had the natural and
easy confidence to walk up to any girl, any where, any
time and charm the shit out of her.
You’d feel like a god walking among men. And you’d
potentially be having enough sex that you would
legitimately qualify as that.
I put together a program called “How To Beat approach
Anxiety” and with a few simple exercises I can get you