A new guy in my 30/30 asked me an interesting question:
“Brad, HOW do I act confident?”
“I know you and some of these other guys just come off
like confident badasses and it gets you laid. Just tell
me how you do it.”
Some guys, no matter how many times they hear they need
to be confident, it just doesn’t get them over their
personal hurdles, self-limiting beliefs or whatever it
is that is holding them back.
I get it. It’s frustrating.
Here’s what might help:
Let’s look at it through the girls’ eyes.
Imagine you are a girl for a second and you’re in some
bar drinking with your girlfriends.
Guys come up to you all the time, some with decent game
but some with boring “So what are you drinking?” game.
What is the one thing that would tell you a guy knows
what he’s doing, has probably fucked a lot of girls, and
can give you both emotional and physical pleasure?
That’s what separates the men from the boys, and that’s
what really gives a girl vagina tingle.
Let me explain with a story.
A couple of nights ago I was working with a couple of
clients and giving the one guy a critique.
Basically he didn’t push the interaction far enough.
And this is absolutely typical when you’re learning.
So I figured I’d do a set and show him and his buddy
EXACTLY what I meant by boldness.
I went up to the bar and picked out a cute girl. I sat
down on a bar stool to face her so that our legs were
After ten minutes of conversation, I made it seem like I
just noticed her bracelets and starting touching them.
Then I saw a spot on her jeans where some of her drink
spilled, and started “rubbing” it out.
Bold right? Would you feel comfortable doing that?
…She quickly hit my hand away.
I pretended nothing happened and continued the
conversation. Then five minutes later I started poking
her thigh while she was talking.
That’s when she started giving commentary on my
“You’ve been here for an hour talking to other girls. I
have a feeling you hit on a lot of girls and you do this
all the time.” I just said I was “outgoing” and
“friendly,” with a smirk of course.
She KNOWS that this is what I do, that I hit on girls
But she cannot tell her brain to stop feeling attraction
for a desirable man.
I am a desirable male because she THINKS I do this all
the time and that I’m successful at it.
See how that works?
And she thinks I do this all the time simply because I’m
touching her early and in ways other guys are too scared
Black Book Method shows you EXACTLY how to do this exact
PS – I made out with her before I got her number, after
a total time of thirty minutes or so of talking to her.
Keep in mind this was from a girl who hit my hand away
when I started touching her.
Being bold screams confidence, because it tells the girl
that you are NOT AFRAID and have done this before.
And here’s the beautiful part: she will have no idea
what your past is and no idea how many women you really
did sleep with (or didn’t).
You want to learn about the “Boldness Handbook”?