I’ve been so busy lately with phone coaching I almost
forgot to sit down and write this newsletter.
But I’ll tell you what, I’m thankful for the clients I
interact with daily and weekly because their questions
and challenges are an endless source of wisdom for us.
I just went on a little rant with a client, David, who
was beating up on himself and as soon I was done with
the call, I sat down and wrote today’s little nugget of
I told David to stop assuming it’s his fault all the
When you approach a woman and it doesn’t go well, it
could have to do with a lot of outside factors.
Maybe the girl is mentally screwed up. Did you ever
Maybe she’s got problems. Or maybe you are just
By no means does that indicate you have lousy game…
For example, if one girl tells you that your clothes
suck, you should disregard her opinion.
However, if 10 girls tell you that your clothes suck,
then you should make a change.
(Common sense, right?)
Here’s something that happened to me a few years ago and
really drove this point home:
I met this girl through my social circle.
She was a friend of a (female) friend.
Both of these women were successful fashion models. They
had been partying all night, and I hung around and
partied with them until 5am.
I used this great technique where I give the girl a
guitar and tell her to strum it with her right hand.
Then I do all the fret work with my left hand, and she
feels like she has instantly become an awesome guitar
Chicks love that.
After a few hours, I managed to isolate her back at my
But, when I got her alone, she went completely cold. She
complained about my outfit, my place, and wouldn’t let
me touch her at all. She’d just say, “Don’t touch me.
She gave me nothing but negative vibes. Finally, I
figured I’d get her out of my house.
I said to myself “Wow I sure did creep that girl out.
She went from interested to ‘don’t touch me’ in just
minutes. My game must really suck tonight.”
The next day, my friends told me “When we took that girl
home, she couldn’t stop talking about you. She was way
This was a shocker to me, since she seemed bitchy and
disinterested the whole time.
It turns out that there were some additional factors I
wasn’t aware of which made this girl act cold even
though she was interested.
Factor 1- she had broken up with her boyfriend the day
before, and didn’t want to have sex for a while.
Factor 2- she was starting a fashion line with my female
friend, and was worried that if she fucked me she would
look like a slut and my friend would not work with her.
My female friend who was setting all of this up is a
famous supermodel who has been on the cover of every
major magazine. She’s a pretty big deal, and the girl
who liked me was paranoid about being on her bad side.
Their business connection is more important than any
amount of sex could ever be.
After my friends told me about all of this, I realized
that I hadn’t done any crappy game, and the problem
The problem was HER!!!
She liked me and wanted to date me, but she was too
screwed up in the head to move towards that goal.
Although you have to remember…
This was years ago. I’ve cracked a few secret codes
And I’ve got a secret project about ready for release:
It’s called the formula X Activation system and it shows
you the secrets to activate an indefinable magnetic
quality that women love.
It’s going to change the game forever. Keep an eye on
this newsletter for updates.
PS – A bad result with one girl doesn’t mean anything.
Wait and see how the next 9 girls respond before you
draw any conclusions.
That is how a winner thinks. A winner doesn’t get thrown
off by one or two failures.
And this is one of the core principles of having rock
solid inner game.
It’s the absolute essential foundation to being the
“magnetic” guy who seems to have magical powers with