Hey it’s Brad,
I got an email from a new client who has purchased a ton
of programs in the past.
He didn’t have success with ANY of them.
It makes you wonder if all the programs out there are
scams, or is there something else wrong with all the
guys who fail?
Here an excerpt of his letter (My advice follows):
I don’t think techniques work. I feel like I’ve tried
The first program I ever tried was That old “Cocky
It almost seemed like his solution for everything was be
So every time I felt like I was losing the girl in that
situation I would just break out the cocky funny and
bust on her.
Man I can’t believe I actually thought that was good
advice. I probably looked like a circus clown.
I also tried the Tao of something?
He had this thing where you would put on a different hat
so to speak. The ready to try anything guy, the Sexual
escalation guy etc. I remember trying to do it for a day
and be a confident guy.
People just thought I was angry.
I read another one about making women want you. I had no
idea how to make it work for me in the real world but
there was something about building emotion in a woman
and going from playful rapport and building to sexual
rapport? I don’t know.
I think the problem I have with programs like these, is
it’s like reading how to golf. If I’m standing the right
distance from the ball and my legs are in the right
position and my back swing is perfect and I’m keeping my
eye on the ball, but I’m picking up my shoulder at the
wrong time the balls will continue to go into the
bush…. and not in a good way. So I figure there must be
something I’m doing wrong and have no idea what it is.
I think my biggest problem is I tend to put up an
invisible barrier around me. I’m not sure if it’s because
I think having a woman will be difficult to keep or if
it parts of me that I feel ashamed of.
I also don’t know how to be natural around a woman, I
always feel like I have to perform to keep them
interested, and its mentally exhausting. I also don’t
like to put myself out there. Maybe that’s from not
What do you think?”
Well this is difficult to diagnose over email, but I
will take a shot at it.
You are probably lacking some basic social skills and
social intuition, which makes it hard to use any of
Sometimes the girl already likes you before you speak,
in which case the technique works really well. Other
times the girl has already ruled you out, so the
technique just makes things worse.
This is why we do a lot of work in 30/30 to
change the way you’re coming across to women in general,
in addition to working on techniques. For example, we
try to make changes in fashion and identity. Having
these 2 areas figured out will increase the chances of a
woman “already liking you” before you try the technique.
This is important.
I’ve seen a lot of people do really well with the books
you mentioned, so I think you made the right move by
investing in these systems. The ones you tried are
pretty much the best of the best.
However, they all need a lot of practice to succeed.
You can’t just try this stuff 5 or 10 times and expect
results. You have to make a permanent commitment to the
system and to make changes in yourself that will
Instead of giving you a few quick ideas, you actually
make changes to yourself every month. After a few months
the changes start adding up and women will be more
To be honest it’s a really slow process and takes 1-2
years of consistent work. I tell all my students to be
prepared to work on this 5-10 hours per week for the
next year or 2.
I have seen all the marketing, and I know it promises
overnight success. The reason for that is that men
refuse to try it or even get started unless they think
it will be easy. You can easily get a few small
successes, but to get consistent results and top shelf
women, you need to make many fundamental changes to
yourself and this takes time.
It’s really a journey. It’s very enjoyable and
satisfying to slowly improve and see results little by
You can read through my 30/30 forum and actually see
beginners getting bad results in the first month or 2
and slowly turning it around. That might be helpful for