I want to talk to you about something really important.
A client of mine recently asked me this in an email:
"I had to run a few errands and was not necessarily
going to the mall with the intent to meet girls.
I was in a pretty low state. Not depressed but just
tired and not really talkative. As I'm walking
throughout the mall I keep catching girls looking at me.
I walk into American eagle and the girl there tells me,
"I usually hang around half an hour after work", and I
just said, "oh sucks".
What's a good exercise or anything really to be in
state?? I just hate it that I can't talk at all when I'm
Here are my comments:
It's not necessary to talk to girls every time you leave
the house or to force yourself to talk to women when you
really don't want to.
If you do, you will eventually grow to dread talking to
women and have a bad attitude.
Now on to your question about state:
There's 2 parts of getting your state up.
1. Living in a good state at all times.
Some people just live in a high state. When it's time to
talk to girls they don't need to go through a bunch of
exercises, they are already almost there.
Identify the things that put you in a bad mood, and
eliminate these from your life.
Also, take the things that make you feel good and do
them more. Add new things that make you feel good.
If your job is killing your state, change jobs. If
playing sports is putting you in a good mood, double the
amount of time you are doing this.
2. Getting "in state" in order to meet girls.
Here are a few tips on that:
Physical movement can help your state. If you are
planning to go out and meet girls, put on loud music and
dance in your bedroom.
It may sound silly, but it will get you feeling good
Texting girls you already know can also get you in a
good mood, it gives you some short-term validation.
Being in a good state of mind is one of the key secret
weapons of guys who are really good with women.
It's something you need to have down if you want to
And if you're ready to learn more about it, I've got the
Check out Secrets of Inner Game.
I'll cut through some of the fluff and give you the key
techniques to get yourself in state every time you go
She'll want to fuck you based on your good vibe alone.
Chicks love good vibes.