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What Dale Carnegie didn’t know about picking up girls…

Thu, 28/07/2016

It seems that we’re always being taught to be good
listeners.

If you look at all the typical relationship advice, one
of the top pieces of advice given to men is be a good
listener.

If you take a Dale Carnegie course on effective
communication, you find that people want to be heard.

And usually in business and in personal relationships,
making a person feel heard helps you get what you want
from them.

Listening is generally considered a really important
skill.

When it comes to women and making them feel comfortable,
it’s usually conserved a SUPER-IMPORTANT skill.

So why then do I tell you to do most of the talking when
you approach women?

It’s counter-intuitive. Aren’t you supposed to be
making her feel heard?

I’m going to go into this today because I was just
talking to a client and he said he felt like he was
doing it wrong because he feels like he was doing most
of the talking during his interactions.

Actually, he was doing it RIGHT.

I had to give him a refresher on the 90/10 rule.

The 90/10 rule means that YOU are talking 90% of the
time and the girl is talking 10% of the time.

If that ratio is occurring early on in your approaches
you are doing GREAT.

If she is talking less than 10% of the time, that’s not
good cause it’s like you’re lecturing her.

The reason this goes against conventional logic is that
most women are shy and caught off guard when you
approach them from out of the blue.

They’re shy when dudes approach. It’s up to you to lead
the interaction.

Sometimes they don’t talk at all, so you have to ask a
question, or get her to agree with something just to get
her to hold up her 10%.

So the bottom line is…

…As long as she’s still standing there listening and
doesn’t walk away, chances are you’re doing fine.

Besides…

You couldn’t spark massive attraction if SHE were doing
all the talking.

So that’s the 90/10 rule: You talk 90% of the time; she
talks 10% of the time.

If you want to find everything you need to always know
what to say, check out this short video I put together
and then take some action on it.

Let me know how you do!

Talk soon,

Brad P.

How to Know When You’re Going Too Far

Tue, 26/07/2016

I recently received an email where one of my students
asks about “rape culture” since it’s been in the media a
lot. He wanted to know about toeing the line between
pushing through last minute resistance and going too
far.

It was a great question.

So let me address this so you guys can discern the truth
in the midst of the media hysteria and all the scare
tactics out there.

This Stanford student who has been in the news was
nailing an unconscious woman behind a dumpster, so I
think everyone reading know that it’s OBVIOUS that this
is rape and you shouldn’t be doing something like that.

Disgusting.

But the issue gets a bit fuzzier when we look at some of
the dialogue around the incident. The media throws
around terms like “micro-aggression” and “rape culture”
to scare the hell out of people, so let’s get a few
things straight:

The escalation plan taught by my coaches and me has
been, and always will be the “rinse and repeat” method.

This method contains fail-safes that will prevent you
from getting the wrong idea about whether a woman wants
to have sex, even if you’re both drunk or not thinking
straight. Here’s how it works:

Escalate her with kissing, touching, taking off
clothing, etc until she says to stop. Then you stop.
Wait 5 minutes.

During this time, keep talking, have a good time, and
give her a chance to leave if she doesn’t want to go any
further. If the woman elects to stay, try to escalate
her again. Keep going until she says stop.

Wait 5 minutes, try again.

Rinse and repeat.

Here’s the underlying psychology:

Women don’t like to directly state “I want to have sex.”
It makes them feel whorish and they prefer it to be an
UNSPOKEN agreement.

What women will do is speak with their ACTIONS.

If a woman is in a sexual situation and she decides not
to leave that situation, it’s a signal that she might be
interested in having sex soon.

It’s common for a woman to be conflicted about the
decision to have sex right up until the moment of
penetration.

We cannot change this fact and neither can they. It’s
just the way the female brain is built.

This is so import to remember:

It’s up to a man to take the lead and escalate so she
has the opportunity to make that last minute decision
“let’s go for it!”

It’s exciting for a woman to get all emotional and then
suddenly decide to have sex. It’s up to you to create
that opportunity for her, and she will thank you later
if you do.

Don’t let the media scare tactics affect you. When you
hear words like “micro-aggressions” and “rape culture,”
I recommend you tune those ideas out.

As seducers, it’s really not our fight to change the
world of college campuses. There are already plenty of
people working on that. A few more things to remember-

“Affirmative consent” only applies at certain college
campuses. It does not apply in actual courtrooms in the
real world.

For those of you who missed my previous newsletters on
this, the idea of it is that you cannot have sex with a
woman until she verbally states that she wants to have
sex.

This idea comes from young college kids who don’t know
anything about sex and it will never catch on in the
rest of the world.

In the real world, sexually experienced women want to
get laid and they want it to be an unspoken agreement.
So don’t worry about it, don’t let the media scare you.

If you stick with “rinse and repeat” you will never have
any problems.

A woman who doesn’t want sex will leave the situation. A
woman who is horny but doesn’t want to say it aloud will
stick around and do a few more rounds of escalation.

It’s a SIMPLE method.

Talk soon,

Brad P.

PS – One more thing:

People who believe in this “affirmative consent” crap
are living in a dream world and have no idea how sex
works.

They get upset when confronted with the idea that women
prefer having sex without a spoken agreement.

As seducers, it’s up to us to stay in touch with how
things work in the real world.

We must not buy into ignorant ideas in the mediafrom radical feminists and confused teenagers.

How to Neutralize Her Bitch Shields

Mon, 25/07/2016

Hey it’s Brad,

Let me ask you something:

Have you ever tried to get into a highly exclusive
restaurant, bar or club?

Not so easy, is it?

Unless you’re a celebrity, they typically reject you
almost immediately.

They ASSUME, from the moment you approach them, that
you’re not a worthy candidate and are 100% prepared to
reject you.

Why do I point this out?

BECAUSE IT’S THE SAME MINDSET OF HOT WOMEN.

It’s how women defend themselves from all the sleazy
douche bags that hit on them.

They have way to many guys trying to talk to them, and
most of them are dipshits-so they essentially
“auto-reject” men… and this becomes their pattern.

In the dating community, we often call it a “bitch
shield”.

Let me explain…

A bitch shield is the attitude hot women have that make
them impossible to approach.

This video explains how to break through the shield.

Unfortunately, it’s necessary because of the all the
scumbags out there who annoy the crap out of them.

Doing things like “accidentally” squeezing their ass in
a crowded place.

Now, I know not all guys are like this, but for women
it’s hard to pick out the good apples in a rotten bunch
– so to speak.

This is why hot women shoot down 99% of guys in most
cases, without even thinking twice about it.

The rejection is INSTANT – and unless you want to be
rejected RIGHT AWAY by every attractive woman you
approach or talk to, you need to watch this video.

If you use the secrets I share with you, she’ll
instantly realize you’re not one of the creepy guys she
hates… and she’ll immediately open up to you.

Yes, she’ll put down her dreaded “bitch shield”.

But without these techniques, forget it.

I’ll explain everything in the video.

Talk soon,

Brad P.