Hey guys
Its Brad P, and I'm in NYC at the moment. I did the conference with Speer the other day, and it was a pretty cool experience. Lots of students there were really ready to learn, and quite a few joined the 30/30 Club, so look for the new guys and welcome them aboard.
The trip has also expanded a bit, and I will be adding Lair seminars in NYC and Washington DC. Email Drew (customerservice@bradp.com) for info if you want to go.
As I was telling you in a previous blog post, my infield video is completely different than anyone else's, and I thought it would be pretty shocking. I was secretly a bit worried that some people might be upset by my video, but everything turned out great. Yes, a lot of the viewers were pretty shocked, but everyone understood the purpose of it and I think it gave everyone a good strong dose of inspiration. Speer was running the conference. He did a great job putting it together. His comment on the video was “I can't believe you actually showed that.”
I got a chance to sit and talk with students for several hours on Friday and Saturday, and that was the best part of the conference for me.
One really weird thing that happened is that I broke one of my cardinal rules at the conference and allowed a documentary filmmaker to interview me, which I've never done before. As recently as the last few months, I've said no to 2 documentaries and a mainstream feature article in Time Out New York Magazine. Why? Because no one is going to get any benefit from it. In fact, if you pay attention to the mainstream media, they are the source of most of the bad information on dating that I am trying to help people get away from. Getting seduction advice from the mainstream media is like getting legal advice from your uncle the plumber. He may tell you he knows a lot about it, but he's never done it, never will, and his advice will make your problems far worse than before.
In this case, the filmmaker had been asking me to do this interview for the last 5 years! It's his life's work, and he's a talented filmmaker. He kept my face off camera and asked interesting questions, so how could I begrudge him 10 minutes of my time?
During this interview, I was asked to do some “point of view” pickup with a hidden camera on me. I didn't want to do it, it really gives the information to the wrong people. I'd much rather spend that time talking to guys from the conference who are ready, willing, and able to learn.
This is the Underground Dating Seminar, and me and the coaches always focus our energy on the guys who are going to do something with the education they are receiving.
When it comes to dating education, there are a few different audiences for it. Whether it's a magazine article, a documentary, a book on openers, or even a blog post on BradP.com, there's different types of people that check it out.
For example, people come to this website for the following reasons-
they are fans and love what I'm doing
They hate me, and they hate what I'm doing
They are curious
They are bored
They are ready to start applying the information, and are looking for help
They are in the middle of the process of going in field and learning, and they need some help
Since being named #1 on all of those blogs, the number of people who are interested in this website has increased, and I can't deal with all of them. So I made a decision a while back to give my attention, my energy, and my passion only to the last 2 groups mentioned:
People who are ready to get started, or people who are in the middle of learning.
The rest of the folks are welcome to read my newsletter or buy the books, but I'm really not going to spend any time being concerned about them. The people that are actually learning are just more important.
I'm very happy to say that by using this website, my newsletter, and the 2 free ebooks, I've been able to convert a lot of people from “curious” to “serious.”
I can't stress this one point enough: being “curious” about pickup or making a half-ass attempt to learn it is completely pointless. It's a waste of your time. Keyboard jockey's and seduction industry fan-boys end up worse than they were before in many cases. The only people who get anything out of it are the people who make it a priority to learn.
These people make sacrifices to improve. They sacrifice their time. They cut their hours at work. They look for different jobs with less hours. They take a cut in pay. They spend money they don't even have in some cases. They deal with the emotional roller coaster of learning. These are the students I truly admire.
Then there's the people who are filled with excuses. “I'm too busy.” “I work long hours.” “I don't have the money.” The list goes on and on. These excuses don't really convince me, since when I was learning I sacrificed way more than them, and I routinely see students in workshops and the 30/30 club who make huge sacrifices. When I hear these excuses, something in my head says “get this guy away from me before he infects me with his lack of dedication and purpose.”
That conversion, the conversion from “Hmmm I wonder if this stuff works” to “I will do anything to succeed at this” is the main purpose of this website.
And my role in it? I spend most of my teaching time on 30/30 members, workshop students, and Pickup Mansion residents. These are the most dedicated students. Their dedication is inspiring to me. I love being around it.
There's one more group I almost forgot to mention, it's the “deal hunters.” Some people come to this website looking for a cheap price on audio seminars or ebooks. I'm not convinced that all of these guys will have the dedication to actually go in field, but I do have hope that they will undergo the conversion from deal-hunter to serious students. So we do try to give them a good deal on “30/30 Basic.” At $29 a month it's a steal. Just buy any ebook and check the box on the checkout page and you will get 30/30 Basic. This includes materials that would costs twice as much you bought them all individually, and you get seminars like the "Get More Sex" seminar in month 12 which are not available to the public at all. I'm pleased to say that quite a few of these guys have graduated and moved on to 30/30 Gold or even Pickup Mansion.
So where do you stand?
Are you serious or curious?
