Anyone have a self limiting belief?
I hear them all the time. I even used to have a few myself.
The most common ones i hear are people complaining that pickup won't work for them because they are....
not good looking, short, too old, too young, have no money, too inexperienced with girls.
Guys who have these have a very hard time leaving them behind.
While some of these beliefs may have some grain of truth, thinking about them and analyzing them is an exercise in futility. That time would be better spent working on some part of your game and being focused.
I could go on a long list of facts and examples that disproves each one of these self-limiting beliefs, but sometimes it seems that this is something that doesn't even help people.
What the hell, I'll write it one more time anyway....
I've seen a 55 year old man pull a hot 25 year old girl for ONS. (old SLB) Also, I might add that all the big name gurus are pushing 40 right now.
There are probably 10 or more well known coaches who are under 5 foot 9 and they are known to pull as well as average or tall guys. I've seen some of these guys pull chicks, and I've seen short students pull chicks...like TONS of times. (short SLB)
Guys around age 18 tend to get dismissed by girls 19+ and girls under 17 are jailbait....so they can get a SLB about that. But...i've seen some of them who get laid a ton. They bang older chicks. Some of them lie about their age and that works OK. Some of them just never address the age thing. Some just say Im 18 SO WHAT??
For me the problem when i was learning was being tall and goofy. I have been told my whole life that im tall and goofy, and I had started to believe it. I had to model myself after other tall guys who could get chicks, but this was hard, since there are many tall guys were in the same boat as me, and could not get any chicks. But i eventually found some, and I did 6 months of work on my posture and body language». Also, seeing some tall guys who were good at PU helped, and eventually I was cured. Now I think it's kind of funny people complain about not being tall, because it was a huge curse for me, but I guess if you're the kind of guy who likes to look for a reason to fail, you will find one.
The most disturbing thing I've seen lately is a 5 foot 10 guy who's better looking than all 3 coaches he was working with complaining about being short and that the coaches had more natural advantages than him.
So here's a quick step by step plan for beating these ideas.
1- accept that any idea is just an idea and it can be changed.
2- start being open to new ideas and pay attention to ideas that disprove your old idea.
3- Work on a few parts of your game that are unrelated to your self limiting belief. Try to forget about it for a while and just work on something else.
4- Work on being a positive person in general. Most self-limiting beliefs are symptoms of a larger problem, overall negativity. When you feel negative all the time, it manifests itself in strange ways. It has to take some form and shape in your self talk. You may have "free floating anger" or "free floating negativity" which ends up coming out in the form of "I'm too old!"
My favorite book on positivity and self talk is called "How to Want What You Have." It's pretty obscure and out-of-print, but used copies are still around.
