If You Don’t Do This, You’re Gonna Burn Out…

Fri, 13/03/2015

There is a guy in the dating forums who knows all the
theory, he’s posting all the time, even giving people
advice – but he doesn’t actually get out and talk to
women.

…And he’s not getting laid.

There’s a term for this guy; we call him the “keyboard
jockey”.

There is a basic sequence of events that creates this
poor guys sexless existence:

1. “Discovery”- This is when a new guy first realizes
there is actually information out there that will help
get him laid.

He starts studying and sees himself as enlightened at
this point.

But he’s not getting out talking to girls.

2. “Surrogate activities”- This is the part where the
new guy is still scared to go out and talk to girls, so
he joins a lair or takes salsa lessons instead, so he
can feel like he’s making progress.

STILL not talking to girls.

3. “Small attempt #1”- This is that part where he gets
frustrated and says “Damn, this is bullshit! I’ve gotta
get this handled!!”

At this point he signs up for something where other
people will pressure him to do approaches. Maybe a
workshop, or group lair outing, or something like that.

Since it’s only a few days, it’s not a long enough to
change his behavior to result in a permanent difference.

The next stage after that tends to be disillusionment.

Here’s how you avoid disillusionment:

Make a DESCISION and take ACTION on it.

Make a commitment to get out and approach women.

Try to do it 3 or 4 times a week, same as if you were
going to lift weights.

Everyone knows that if you’re not consistent with
workouts you’ll never build muscle.

If you’re not consistent talking to women, you can’t get
good at it.

So when you make that level of commitment, you are
saying “I’m gonna do it, that’s it, period.”

That’s what I mean when I say “make a decision”.

It’s where all the top 5% of success stories come from.

So how do you start?

First you get just the right information at just the
right time. Then you get a sequence of things to do, in
the right order and get someone to push your ass out the
door to do it.

And that is exactly what 30/30 Club is.

Ready to go?

Talk soon,

Brad P.