Naturally talented guys are not the ones who get laid
I mean, they do great till they don’t. But because they
never had to work for it, they’re kind of clueless when
their fortunes change.
You know who gets more pussy than anyone?
Guys who take action to learn dating skills and then
repeat, repeat, repeat.
It’s that simple. And that, by the way, is how you
succeed at anything.
I’ve got a friend who was tall and thin, and not real
In a barroom brawl he’d probably have been killed.
Well, he didn’t like that and so he found this really
good school that taught the Israeli Martial Art, Krav
He started going everyday for months.
At first it was hard – he could barely get through the
workouts, to say nothing of learning the techniques.
But he knew it wasn’t a race (with anyone but himself)
and he kept at it.
Now he’s got this buff physic and can put me in
chokehold before I even realized that he moved.
All it took was time and application.
Fortunately for us, getting good with women isn’t quite
and strenuous as learning to fight, we just have to use
the right tools and practice.
If you’ve been on this email list for a while, you’ve
heard me mention my Black Book Method where I give you
the techniques and the mindset.
That’s where I want you to start.
I make this point because I just got this note from
Ethan, who hasn’t been following directions:
“So I’m getting rejected like crazy.
The only opener that comes to me – that I’m most
comfortable with – even though I’m pretty uncomfortable
– is… “Hi” – then I introduce myself and ask her name –
and it typically goes downhill from there.
Once I start walking, I don’t care if I’m approaching
lonely (but not looking for company) chicks, pairs (most
common), and chicks with boyfriend on their arm (I did
this coz she locked eyes with me for over 10 seconds).
This is where I’ve hit a brick wall — I’m not
converting any approaches into successes.
So far 100% of the girls I’ve met don’t want to sleep
with me. ”
I don’t like your opener.
Are you kidding me?
Sure you feel comfortable doing it but it gives you very
little room to do anything else.
You’re making the girl decide on the spot if she likes
you or not since it’s direct in nature.
You haven’t given yourself a chance to start a repoire
or build attraction.
Focus on indirect instead. Let her talk to you for a few
minutes until she thinks, “Hmm he’s a cool guy.”
Don’t make her decide off the bat.
One of my favorite ways to open (which I teach you all
about in my Black Book Method) is with humor,
particularly dumb questions.
Here’s how you do it:
In daytime settings, ask a functional question which is
completely out of place. Be sure you fully commit to the
joke, and act like it’s a totally serious question.
Here are some examples –
In a coffee shop-
“Do you know how many flavors of vodka they have here?”
In a book store-
“Do you know what aisle the cat food is in?”
In a grocery store-
“Do you know which aisle has the Prada bags?”
In a dive bar-
“Have you seen the maitre d’ around? I’m trying to
figure out if this place has Caviar and Filet Mignon.”
At a rock concert-
“Just wondering if you’ve seen my grandma around. I
brought her here but I lost her and I’m worried she
might have snuck backstage.”
These are funny and totally catch a girl off guard. All
her attention is now on you and you’ve got her curious.
Doesn’t this make a lot more sense than starting with
When you go through my Black Book Method, you literally
have a complete system to follow to take you all the way
from opening with a funny question to pulling off her
tight fitting jeans.