Don’t Do It, Don’t Do It…

Sat, 12/11/2016

A lot of guys stress about whether to get a girlfriend
and sort of settle down or stay single and keep their
game sharp and some variety in the bedroom.

My advice:

Whatever the hell you want. There’s of course no one
right answer for everyone.

And you can always change your mind.

Here’s what one of my coaching clients PM’d me recently:

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Hey Brad,

“A lot of my friends seem perfectly content with
settling down with girlfriends and hanging up the spurs
completely, but I can never seem to pull it off.

I’ll get in a relationship, be happy with it for a
while, but inevitably the itch comes back and I start
looking for the door.

Are some guys just hungrier for it?

I guess I’m just sounding off a bit because the ex is
starting to resurface and I’m in one of those “fuck
these dumb bar bitches, I hate them all anyway” phases.

I guess my ultimate question for you is: what’s the end
game? Where would you ideally end up, and when would you
ideally exit the game? It’s tricky shit and I’m fishing
for insight.”

– Will”

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My Answer:

Well the first thing is this – go somewhere else than
the bar! Change it up a bit.

You’re getting sick of “bar bitches” because all your
doing is picking up “bar bitches”.

Personally, I get tired of hitting bars after a while
and then I experiment with day game until I miss bar
game again.

It keeps things fresh.

And, honestly, if the only place I hit on a girl is in a
bar, you’re only going to get a certain quality.
Remember, everyone is basically there just to hook up.

About staying in the game versus settling down:

It’s been my observation over the years that it’s a
man’s own personality and motivations that makes him
more or less likely to get in the game (and stick to
it).

I think the end game for the majority of guys out there
is staying with a girl you love.

Learning dating skills makes you much more able to
achieve that. But….

It’s a double-edged sword. It can actually make it
harder to settle down because you know that because of
your awesome dating skills you always have options.

Yes, there will probably come a point in your life where
your wingmen disappear and you’re getting older and
losing motivation to continue gaming women.

I saw this in three former wingmen/students who were
into it hardcore, but now one is married, one is about
to be, and the other is in a two-year relationship.

For some guys there is a point where they say, “fuck
it” and pick the best available girl and go with it.

I still think it’s best to DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO,
instead of letting your environment or circumstances
decide for you.

That is the essence of having CHOICE.

That is what social freedom really is.

Talk soon,

Brad P.

PS – You want to learn how to approach any woman
anytime anywhere and get her into you as fast as
possible?

Learn how to do it here.

Once you’ve got this down, you’ll be in a much better
position to decide if settling down is for you or not!