So the other day we were talking about Greg. He went
through that major embarrassing blowout and told me he
would never approach again.
That can be frustrating when you’re new.
Greg’s doing a lot better by the way. He blew off some
steam and now he’s right back at it.
I sent an email to check in on him, he says the
experience actually made him stronger.
Rejection actually does make you stronger and more
Even more capable.
Today I want to talk just a little bit more on how to
handle blowouts and completely turn a seeming rejection
To begin with, everyone is going to get blown out at
some point. I don’t care how good you are; no one can
pick up every girl every time.
There are all kinds of women out there. Some are
compatible with you and some are not.
The goal should be this:
To find out as quickly as possible whether this girl is
what you’re looking for.
There are 3 initial possibilities when you do an
Attraction, blowout, or the 20 minutes go-nowhere set.
Obviously attraction is the best option.
But what about the other 2?
I’d rather get blown out. Getting blown out gives me 20
minutes of my life back.
THAT is valuing yourself and your time properly.
Now, let’s talk about the right way to blow out and have
it work to your advantage.
DO NOT: Get all upset and walk away with your tail
between your legs.
(Like Greg did the other day.)
DO: Treat like a normal thing, where the girls did you a
favor and saved you some time.
What most guys do is get embarrassed.
Remember, from a few feet away, a blowout doesn’t really
look like much. All it looks like is people who know
each other talking, and then one or both turn their
attention to something else.
People really are self-absorbed. They’re not paying
attention to you. Especially these days, everyone has
their head buried in their phone!
So when you get the blow out:
Don’t push. When they say “Nice meeting you” or
whatever. Just say “Nice meeting you too.”
Then stay right where you are. Check the room for your
To any bystanders, this just looks like you were done
talking. It doesn’t look like rejection.
Do not even stop to think. Just turn directly to your
right and immediately open the next girls you see with
the exact same line you were just using.
This prevents you from starting a cycle of negative
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Blow out? No problem, move on. There are fucking tons
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