I just got off the phone with a coaching client who says
he’s never going to approach another woman again.
In his life.
That won’t be very productive or fulfilling but let me
back up for a sec and tell you a little about Greg:
He bought his first product from me about six months ago
and joined 30/30 Club shortly after that.
He has made AMAZING strides. We are talking about a guy
who, up until 6 months ago, used to play Fallout 4 and
collect action figures and didn’t know what to do if a
woman walked in the same room.
Now we’ve given him a full makeover and not only does he
approach women all the time, but he’s actually popular.
He is every much at the center of his social circle and
he’s really pretty happy.
Which is way cool – I love to see that in my clients.
Anyway – he approached some girl at a house party in DC
(he goes to Georgetown) and this women’s studies,
feminsta – zilla scary woman went ballistic on him, told
him to leave her alone, on and on.
He was being friendly and she turned it into an
It’s a bummer, but it happens.
I had Greg run the conversation for me verbatim and he
did nothing to trigger her.
So I’m going to tell you guys what I told him:
Sometimes when a girl goes bat-shit crazy on you, it’s
absolutely not your fault.
If you approach a woman and it doesn’t go well, it could
have to do with A LOT of outside factors.
In fact it USUALLY does.
Maybe the girl is mentally screwed up. Maybe she just
had a REALLY BAD DAY.
…Or maybe you and her are just totally incompatible
because you remind her of her father who was never there
That doesn’t necessarily mean you have lousy game.
It just means sometimes shit happens.
I had another guy get down on himself because a chic
made fun of his clothes.
If one girl tells you that your clothes suck, you should
disregard her opinion.
However, if 10 girls tell you that your clothes suck,
THEN you should make a change.
I know this seems like common sense, but you’d be
surprised how fast some guys can get thrown off track by
Don’t let that happen to you.
Not letting rejection slow you down is the thing that
separates the MEN from the BOYS.
One time I met a woman through my social circle.
She was a friend of a (female) friend.
Both of these women were successful fashion models. They
had been partying all night, and I hung around and
partied with them until 5am.
I used this great technique where I give the girl a
guitar and tell her to strum it with her right hand.
Then I do all the fret work with my left hand, and she
feels like she has instantly become an awesome guitar
Chicks love that.
After a few hours, I managed to isolate her back at my
But, when I got her alone, she went completely cold. She
complained about my outfit, my place, and wouldn’t let
me touch her at all. She’d just say, “Don’t touch me.
She gave me nothing but negative vibes. Finally, I
figured I’d get her out of my house.
I said to myself “Wow I sure did creep that girl out.
She went from interested to ‘don’t touch me’ in just
minutes. My game must really suck tonight.”
The next day, my friends told me “When we took that girl
home, she couldn’t stop talking about you. She was way
This was a shocker to me, since she seemed bitchy and
disinterested the whole time.
It turns out that there were some additional factors I
wasn’t aware of which made this girl act cold even
though she was interested.
Factor 1- she had broken up with her boyfriend the day
before, and didn’t want to have sex for a while.
Factor 2- she was starting a fashion line with my female
friend, and was worried that if she fucked me she would
look like a slut and my friend would not work with her.
My female friend who was setting all of this up is a
famous supermodel who has been on the cover of every
major magazine. She’s a pretty big deal, and the girl
who liked me was paranoid about being on her bad side.
Their business connection is more important than any
amount of sex could ever be.
After my friends told me about all of this, I realized
that I hadn’t done any crappy game, and the problem
The problem was HER!!!
She liked me and wanted to date me, but she was too
screwed up in the head to move towards that goal.
So try to remember:
A bad result with one girl doesn’t mean anything. Wait
and see how the next 9 girls respond before you draw any
That is how a winner thinks.
PS – When you’re ready to think and score like a winner,
check out my 30/30 Club. It’s all you need in one place
to go from zero to totally badass.
PPS – Greg’s doing a lot better. Approaching again and
it’s going great. He’s love to see you in the club.